“I just wanted other guys to share that experience with.”

When Josh became a father, he discovered he was sometimes questioned as a parent. It’s 2017, haven’t we come further? Here are Joshua’s thoughts on becoming a dad.

BABYBJÖRN Magazine for Parents – Dadstories: here’s dad vlogger Joshua Harris with daughter Darcy in his arms.
Guys are still seen as second-hand parents. Joshua feels this is the case in England, at least.
Photo: BabyBjörn

“We took nine pregnancy tests. And then another one, just to make sure. I was over the moon. I grew up in a big family and I’ve always wanted to have kids.”

Pierre’s story: “I’ve never felt so inadequate.”

Becoming a father is actually a big thing. But no-one asked me how I felt. The midwife only talked to my wife. Hello, I’m here too.”

I even googled ‘how to be a dad’.

“I even googled ‘how to be a dad’. Where were all the other ordinary dads? So I decided to pick up my camera and start my own vlog. I wanted other dads to talk to and share experiences on day-to-day life with.”

BABYBJÖRN Magazine for Parents – Dadstories: Joshua Harris with his daughter and wife captured mid-kiss.
“Wanting to be a present father – how can that even be questioned?”
Photo: BabyBjörn

“Guys are still seen as second-hand parents. I feel this is the case in England, at least. Wanting to be a present father – how can that even be questioned? I still get asked if I’m babysitting. It’s quite offending actually. It’s 2017, haven’t we come further?”

I still get asked if I’m babysitting. It’s quite offending actually.

Her birth is the most amazing thing ever. I was given this tiny little human to hold. Those first 20 minutes of her life, when it was only me and her, will remain with me forever. She was fully relying on me and somehow I knew I had it within me. I had no choice but to be a good dad.”

Text: Katarina Gröndahl

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Joshua Harris

Dad to soon-to-be one-year-old Darcy.

Age: 31

Lives: Birmingham, UK

Occupation: producer, foodie and vlogger at The DadHe

About being a dad: “It sure is a mental challenge. But I have discovered new sides of myself. I’m more relaxed than I thought. Definitely more patient. It’s weird what that little smile of hers can do – six hours of screaming, forgotten in two seconds.”